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The Course of True Love











Most of us would associate this phrase with romantic love. I feel this is also the case when you find something in life that you love to do, your passion.   Especially when this passion conflicts with the love you have for your child.

I love writing and know this is what I want to do for the rest of my life but I also love my daughter.  On a hot sunny day we will get lunch in a café. While we are waiting for food  to arrive I will scribble down some notes. I try to do it discreetly so that she knows my attention is on her. Some would say this is good multi-tasking. Others would say I am a bad mother.

The flip side of that with some parents is that they give up on their own dreams and try to get their children to live them. They end up taking their frustrations out on their children if they do not succeed.



I have also come across parents who pour all their love onto their children and nothing else. When they flee the nest they have nothing in their lives to get excited about. What started as love turns to possession, interference and control.  Often resulting in relationships ending.



All these are dilemma’s that stem from love. Is it true love in all cases though?












Comments

  1. Keith14 April 2012 at 13:17

    Good post. If writing is what you want to do for the rest of your life, then you will succeed. I know writers who write anywhere - pen and paper and you go for it!

    Life's a balancing act and that includes the kids. Have a listen to this. 'If I only had Time'
    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=18W9zQgGi5I&feature=related
    One of my old teachers reckoned you always had time for the things that you really wanted to do. Don't agree entirely, but it makes you think.

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    1. Mayapee18 April 2012 at 11:06

      Thank you Keith as always for the confidence boast. Not sure I agree with your teacher entirely either. I feel you can find time but at a cost for example sleep deprivation,lack of a social life, more headaches as a result of the late nights and extra caffeine consumption.It does make you think.

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  2. Maria22 April 2012 at 15:01

    Maya,

    I've been there, and to some extent still am...life with children is busy whatever their age!
    I could seriously write a book on sleep deprivation, and headaches, due to late nights.

    However, I love writing, just like you do, so what choice do we have.

    Keep pushing the pen.

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